applying mindfulness techniques effectively

Self-compassion is pinned down to the practice of mindfulness a great way for closing the gap between family relationship dynamics and workplace relationship dynamics

The steps below will help in establishing a strong connection with your inner self. It will also help you restructure the belief system that you have adopted during your early childhood experiences in a way more consistent with your true self. The restructuring of your belief system will allow you to detach from parental figures so you may find your ultimate self-worth and therefore your full potential.

Mindfulness is the key to unlocking your potential and the following is a step-by-step guide on developing a sense of ‘self-appreciation’ and ‘self-esteem’ needed to unlock your full potential.

While it may seem daunting to find a balance between who you think you are and what you believe you are capable of; and between who you really are and what you are truly capable of – yet, you can close the gap between these two aspects of the Self (the true Self and the socialized Self) by being real and genuine in all aspects of relationship dynamics you are currently in.

• While it is crucial to connect to your true feelings during your alone time while practicing mindfulness, and in social interactions, yet it takes so much commitment to the self to recover from those unpleasant feelings that keep swaying you back and forth
• It is worth noting that every unpleasant feeling we experience on a deep level is rooted in early childhood experiences. To regulate these intense feelings, we need to identify them, accept them and reverse them. Thus, approach unpleasant experiences from the spectacles of your self-worth and self-acceptance.
• While we give ourselves permission to feel those deeply buried feelings, we might as well close the gap between our intense feelings of worthlessness and what we truly believe about ourselves (who you truly believe you are), by identifying those thoughts that have contributed, for so long, to our limiting belief system.

• Therefore, make a shift from worrying about what others think about you or how they perceive you to caring about how you are feeling about yourself. Ask yourself what do you think about yourself? What does your self-belief entail?

• Separate your mind from other individuals’ belief systems in your social/family circles so you can identify feelings associated with thoughts of self-rejection; also, be mindful of self-defence or coping mechanisms that you resort to due to the fear of being rejected. By overcoming the fear of ‘not being accepted’ after showing up genuinely, and demonstrating your courageous aspect of your personality, should lead you, naturally, to redefining your belief system and your abilities.

• After identifying thoughts and feelings that have contributed to unhealthy belief system about the Self, you may need to restructure your belief system by revisiting your early childhood experiences, one more time, and make changes to your attachment style accordingly.

Implementing mindfulness principles, by being mindful of the impact of the environment on your health and sense of wellbeing.

• To develop a good level of growth in various aspects of life commitments, it is crucial you maintain your boundaries, so you are constantly mindful of your thoughts, feelings, and belief system. Maintaining an alignment between these elements determines your potential in building healthy relationship dynamics.
• Therefore, draw your boundaries in a way that contributes to the development of your true self and make social connections that nourish your sense of belonging and sense of wellbeing; then reflect on your sense of self-worth.
• Continue to demonstrate a connection between “how you are truly feeling” and “what you truly believe” about yourself as this will develop within you a good level of self-confidence when showing up in social contexts.
• Another way to deal with any such unpleasant feelings effectively is by recognising current unhealthy relationships in terms of ‘parent-child dynamic’. This in turn will help you create your boundaries more effectively.
• Be aware of your tendency to depend on others for affirmation outside and inside the scope of your relationships. Allow yourself to be that child. However, make sure you place healthy boundaries, so you are not developing dependency on others but, on the contrary, you are growing in your capacity and your belief in your potential. In this case, you are not relying on others for care, but you are caring for your own feelings by allowing yourself to grow, develop, and mature through them, and to broaden your capacity for self-care.

These steps will help support you build healthy relationship dynamics and resolve a lot of issues that were developed through unhealthy choices and unhealthy relationships.

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